Are you striving to find balance in motherhood? Are you consistently looking for ways to organize priorities in your life?

What does balance really mean? I believe moms are looking to have their attention divided fairly amongst many priorities. Moms want to be great mothers, while being a great career woman. Moms want to have a clean, aesthetically pleasing home but not feel over-scheduled. We want to be fit and healthy. We desire to be well versed on the best parenting techniques. We want to do it all.

But we can’t do this all well or all equally.

What if we change the wording from “finding balance in motherhood” to “rearranging priorities in different seasons of motherhood”? How could this mindset shift change how you feel when you perhaps do not give equal attention to something in your life?

Personally, exercise has fallen down on my list of priorities the last couple of months. It’s not that I don’t value exercise, because I do! I believe whole-heartedly that the immense benefits of being physically active has a huge impact on your overall wellbeing. But the past couple of months, I’ve had other priorities that needed more of my attention.

And that is OK.

When thinking about your priorities and how you can organize them, here are my recommended steps:

1. Write down some of your values. What’s important to you? What do you want others to see true of your life?

2. Next to your values, write down what you are actually doing to cultivate growth. If it’s nothing, write nothing. Don’t judge any of your responses, just notice.

3. Take note of things that are not adding value to your life or in other words, taking away from the values/priorities that you have for yourself.

There will be different seasons in which you need to reevaluate what is working for you and what is not. Some seasons will require more attention to work (perhaps a big presentation or promotion is on the horizon) or maybe a season will require you to be present at home more (kids’ activity schedules).

Whatever season of motherhood you find yourself in, I want you to remember that there will be different areas of your life that take priority over others. You can do many things and do them well, but you can’t do everything balanced. It isn’t reality. What season of motherhood do you find yourself in? What are your top priorities that need your focus right now?